Information and learning are your best tools in the quest for perfecting your lover skills. Still, these tools can only take you so far if you don’t further your knowledge by exploration and observation. It’s pretty strange to think about it, but a lot of men have never taken a good look at a woman’s vagina. Never! All they’ve ever seen is a flash of pink among the pubic hairs. No wonder that some men have no idea how to find a woman’s clitoris and are clueless about the erogenous zones.

To be fair, some men are shy. They feel lucky enough for having convinced a lady to go to bed with them and are not in the mood for exploration and experimentation. Moreover, some think (and with good reason, too) that women might not share their curiosity, or may even take an attempt to expand one’s experience as proof of weirdness or inexperience (“Haven’t you seen a pussy before?”). It takes a smooth talker to get out of this kind of situation.

Other men are simply not interested. That’s their option and we should respect it even if we can’t agree with it. They have no idea what they’re missing. Still others are really curious, but think that getting on all fours and doing this is beneath them. It’s mind blowing that men would rather rely on hearsay or expect information to fall out of the sky. The “If I have to do all the work, then it’s not worth it” approach is not exactly the best for those who want to sharpen their bedroom skills.

And then there’s the “I’m not going down there! It’s disgusting!” crowd. Guys, if you expect oral sex from your ladies, it’s only fair to bite the bullet and reciprocate. Besides, you shouldn’t let the idea scare you. Many men thought they were only going to do it out of fairness and were surprised to find that it wasn’t half as bad as it had seemed. If your lady is careful about her hygiene and if you can keep an open mind about it, close-up exploration of your lady’s private parts would prove very good fun indeed.

Your main targets are the clitoris and the perineum. These are the hidden erogenous zones that cannot be easily accessed, but which are very important to a student of the erotic arts. The clitoris is an extremely sensitive area, which is responsible for most female orgasms because, unlike the penis, the clitoris has no other function except to give pleasure. Vaginal orgasms are far more rare than clitoral orgasms and, for a good number of women, not nearly as good. One trick that you may be able to profit from is to have the woman give you a tutorial.

While lying in bed, sharing an intimate moment of peace or getting ready for a hot session, bring the conversation around to masturbation. If the lady is into this, then ask her to show you what she’s doing. Chances are she’s focusing on the clitoris and so you’ll get a good look not only at the thing itself, but also at how to go about it. But don’t be pushy about it. If the lady is not inclined to share this intimate act with you or is not into masturbation, change the topic.

Well, if you have to find your own way around, then here’s the lowdown. The clitoris is located directly above the junction of the two inner lips (labia minora). If you use your fingers to gently separate the lips (keep your fingernails cut very short), the little rosebud or its hood should become apparent. The clitoris is either fully or partially covered by a hood; this is different from one woman to another. You can use your fingers or lips on the clitoris, but be very gentle. If the woman says the sensation is too intense, pull back and don’t argue.

The perineum is an area you are most likely to have to learn about on your own. It is located between the lower junction of the labia minora and the anus. This area is also highly sensitive and, along with the anus, can be stimulated in order to obtain a satisfying response. And the response is not limited to women; men also enjoy a finger pressing on their perineum, especially during ejaculation. It is known to enhance pleasure so feel free to experiment with this part of your body.